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Archive of posts published in the category: Deployment


Walk a mile in my shoes. Hell, walk 5 feet and you will see the struggle I endure every day. They call me strong, they call me tough. They see the calm exterior and the smile on my face. But inside I may…



The other day someone asked me if things would “go back to normal” once my husband got home from deployment. My instant reaction was to say yes, it would. But that conversation got me thinking about reintegration. I hear it’s a pretty difficult…


Ahhhhhh Father’s Day

This may well be one of the more complex holidays. There are many dimensions and components of it. As a mother, it is your responsibility to make sure your kids know it’s Father’s Day and wish their dad well. There are presents to…


The wall

Sometimes you hit a wall. This wall seems immovable, impassable. There is no way around it, over it, through it. You stand at the foot of this wall and it seems that much bigger. It’s daunting how high it is – you can’t…


Speed bump

The longer this deployment goes on, the more it feels normal to be without my husband. I have gotten used to capturing memories on video or photos to send to him. I have become accustomed to sleeping alone in our huge bed. I…


National Military Spouse Appreciation Day

Today is National Military Spouse Appreciation Day. Today is a day for me! But what on earth does it really mean? It depends on who you ask. A civilian will likely say it’s a day for those women who support their soldiers in…


Wobble boards and new normals

I’m not entirely sure what I expected to experience in my husband’s first deployment. The unknown for me has always held equals parts of fear and intrigue. It’s like I can’t wait to experience something new but at the same time I don’t…



Fear. It comes in so many forms and varying degrees. Everyone has known it in their life, no one is exempt from it. Fear can be based on a solid set of facts or it can be completely irrational. It can last a…


The best day

Today I had a wonderful day. I love days like this, I cherish them. Both kids woke up in a good mood and so did I. All day long it was giggles and smiles. The kids got along well and no one screamed…


Tags, schmags

In my house, I am the responsible one. Not to say that my husband isn’t responsible, but most tasks fall to me because I am organized and I remember things… most of the time. You’ve got to play to your strengths. I pay…